Welcome Scott. Sounds like your turbo doesn't want to play, although, like you, I don't know much. Can you feel/hear the turbo kick in when its meant to? If you are booting it, you should feel it come online with a kick at around 3.2K in the revs.
Also, are there any CELs? Have you done anything to the car that might have causes this, like using different fuel etc, etc?
To reset the ECU, just disconnet the battery for 15 minutes, then reconnect.