Not very "big" saying things like that on a computer if the other half does not know about it imo. I'm not under the thumb, i just know what would annoy alison and don't do or say certain things that would upset her. I get 2 weekends off out of 8 and if my mates text me asking me to go out i say no as i know alison would like to spend time with me. She has her horses and i have my car cleaning for hobbies and are very understanding of this